Friday, February 1, 2013

Ladies and Gentlemen Game!

Last night my husband Lonnie was explaining to the children about how we should act at the table when we have supper or when we are out to eat or dining with another family. He spent some time explaining the basics and then he got into talking about Ladies how they are not bossy and demanding what they want from the table and Gentlemen are not grouchy and chauvinistic or superior acting towards the women that they are around. In other words, quit fighting at the table.

Then my dear hubby came up with a grand idea to drive home the issue a little farther, a chance to do some training and have fun at the same time. They were excited then and ready to finish up their supper and clean off the table so that they could find out what game he had planned for them.

First Lonnie explained how there are Ladies and then there are Women. A Lady can be spotted by how she is dressed and how she acts usually on sight. She will be dressed modestly and she will not be loud or obnoxious.

Ladies and Gentlemen Game


Preliminary Setup- Explain how Gentlemen are supposed to allow a Lady to go through the door if they are both coming up to the door at the same time and hold the door for the lady or if it is an automatic door stop and motion for the woman or Lady to go first.

1. Pair up your children and let the girl stand on the side or the door like she had just gotten there and then ask the boy to come up to the door and open it or motion for the woman or Lady to go ahead of him.

*if the female is not a Lady then she will demand that the door is opened for her or get angry when the door is opened for her. The boy is instructed that even if he is treated this way he is to treat the woman as if she were a lady because when she is treated like a lady many times she will begin to act like one.

2.  Find an open space like a living room for this next part.

Setup- explain how a gentleman will hold his arm to his stomach and hold it there not stiffly but strong so that the Lady can put her arm through his elbow and hold his arm to be escorted by the gentlemen.  Tell them how that if they don't hold their arm right the Lady will fall and hurt herself.

Pair up a girl with a boy and if you run out you can use Mom and Dad as well.  Take the ladies on a little spin around the living room or area and have the girl pretend to fall and the gentleman help her up. Be ready for some really fun giggles!

Maybe you could come up with some more at your house. If you do let me know.

The Girl Creative
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A Helping Hand, Not A Handout

Today I have a dear friend Amy, who is going to share with you about her experience babysitting my children. She has also started a great new blog that is well worth the read. You don't find a whole lot of people in the world that are as sweet and genuinely caring like she is. Enjoy!


This week I had a somewhat rare but glorious babysit 7 of the sweetest, cutest, and craziest kids I know... the "Z-kids"!

My friends were celebrating their Anniversary (13 years!) and God gave me the opportunity to lend a helping hand on their special day. I decided to host the kids at our house and serve a delicious crock-pot spaghetti dinner (yum!). Upon their arrival I proceeded to (try to) entertain these little characters with "paper plate and bean tambourines" (a craft I quickly threw together), with the traditional crayons, stamps, and stickers. 

After completing our musical project and thoroughly annoying each other with our maraca-like-tambourines, we moved on to other things... like FOOD!  Three apples, a crock-pot full of spaghetti, a bag of carrots, multiple glasses of juice, 8 croissants, and several burps later we were done.

By this time, my wonderful husband had come home from work and joined the rowdy banshee in conversation, pillow fighting, and (soon to come) NERF warfare!  Books, puzzles, dolls, dress-up, and a large stuffed animal Bull (which was widely referred to as a "Moose" the whole evening) were scattered across our living room floor getting plenty of use, abuse and love!

In an effort to calm things down and let our food properly digest (yeah right!), I plugged in one of Josh and my favorite movies... the old That Darn Cat! (with Haley Mills). It proved to be entertaining to only about half the lot...the younger kids reverted back to riding Mr. Moose and placing books in my lap (which they then crawled up onto) for me to read to them. No problem! They know "story reading" is a favorite of mine. After the movie and a quick Cheeto snack break, I went back to reading and playing Mrs. Cow and Mrs. Rabbit (little dolls I have) with the little ones on the floor while Josh incited a NERF Revolution in the kitchen! Considering a
potential loss of ALL his ammo (NERF darts), Josh cleverly decided to issue only ONE Nerf bullet per child, per gun. Therefore, when they shoot, they HAVE to go find it in order to keep playing. 

With the four older kids occupied with a "child-adult-uprise" in the kitchen, I played the occasional referee (from the living room). These kids are amazing and our evening with them was priceless! We love getting to play "parents" (or at least "entertainers") for these little ones. I hope that our friends (the PARENTS) had a relaxing, romantic, and memorable evening... we sure did! (minus the relaxing and romantic part). Later, when the army retreated home, I commented to my husband, "You had a long day at work. You didn't have to stay in here with the kids." He just laughed and said, "It's good practice!" (in reference of future parenthood). We love these kiddos!

With all that said, if you (readers) get an opportunity to "lend a helping hand" to a large family, or to a worn-out mom... DO IT! The Word tells us to make the most of every opportunity (Eph 5:16). Let 1 Peter 4:9 be our motivator, "Use hospitality one to another without grudging". We should do this with the right intentions, the right attitude, and with the right heart-set (like mind-set). Don't do it grudgingly. 

The Lord loves a cheerful giver (and giving your time is a lifesaver for mothers!) It doesn't have to be four hours, it can be ten minutes! Just drop by and entertain the kids so mom can, I don't know, "sit down for a second!" :-) Sweep the kitchen, fold the laundry, do the dishes so the mom can take a break or get in a quick reading lesson. You don't have to feel like you're sacrificing the WHOLE day!

 Fifteen minutes of assistance goes a long way in any household with kids (just ask a mother!). Don't do it with the selfish intention of getting something back either (like gratitude, credit, or whatever... that's all "pride before the fall" stuff). You're not doing anyone a "favor". You're not doing anything special. You're simply doing what God has already commanded us to do; to love our neighbors as ourselves.

 If I had 7 kids, I know I'd need a LOT of help! I've just got one husband (and no kids) and I need a LOT of help! It all goes back to the Golden Rule, Luke 6:31 "And as ye would that men should do to you, do ye also to them likewise". So put it in the right perspective and remember... it's A HELPING HAND. NOT A HANDOUT.

Amy and Josh G.

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Here's some photos that really "captured the moment" while our house was full of the "Zs"...

Now didn't Amy brighten your day? She has posted here another time a while back about her and her husband. Don't forget to check out her NEW blog and surprise her with some great comments. Thanks!

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