Hurting wives are everywhere. I would like to take a moment to express ways to help the hurting and to encourage someone who may be at the brink of giving up on their marriage. Maybe you have come to this blog as a last resort. Maybe God brought you here to find the help that you need from an elder women. I have never even thought of myself as an elder woman but my age is climbing steadily and I must admit that God has been using me in this capacity of late.
Titus 2:3-53 The aged women likewise, that [they be] in behavior as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;
4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,
5 [To be] discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
If you know that the family and marriages are trying to be torn apart by Satan then you should realize it is in harsher ways and even in more subtle ways than before. The enemy will use any device available to sabotage your relationship with your husband and your children. If he can he will do both at the same time.
Don't let "nay sayers" as the Bible calls them bring you to the point of divorce. The only one that should lead you to that point is God. If you never feel him leading you to leave your husband then don't let others contradict what he is telling you through his word. If your counsel is against the counsel of God then you should listen to the wise counsel of others.
I've read all of the scripture of marriage in the Bible and yes there are times when God allowed for divorce but he never commanded anyone to divorce anyone. There are times when he allows it and it is good for your health to leave but never was it commanded that you should leave in a marriage. Don't let others unrightfully divide the word of God just because they hate to see you suffer.
Many times God is refining us in the refiners fire or remodeling us as the potter his clay. Suffering isn't always bad. Sometimes we suffer so that we can identify more with Christ and be brought even closer to HIM.
Now I don't see being brought closer to God as an event I would want to miss out on just because I listened to the wrong counsel.
To those of you who are giving the counsel to leave in a marriage make sure that you have a right to give it. IF you can't find a Bible verse to support you ordering someone to leave their husband then you need to go and apologize to your friend and tell them that you are not sure what God would have them to do but that the scripture is saying they could if God spoke to them about it.
The Devil is out to kill and to steal marriages. Even if you married the wrong person when you got married doesn't mean that God can't make you happy where you are. Then again if God tells you to move on because of a certain sin that has been committed in the marriage then you should do it! Don't allow the world to become your only source of counsel, for when you do, you risk the counsel to mortals and not to God.
The Bible sates about counsel:
Counsel is mine, and sound wisdom: I am understanding; I have strength.
To sum it all up; what I am saying is this. If God has not counseled you to give up or leave then don't do it just to please someone else or even yourself. Never go against what God has given you peace about even if it is difficult to do. Look for ways to lighten your journey and ask God to send them. He said that, " my yoke is easy and his burden is light."
King James Version (KJV)
28 Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.
29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls.
30 For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.
Don't try to change your husband pray that you will change all that you need to and that God will lead your husband to change where he needs to. Leave that up to God. If you began to take that all on yourself then you are messing with God's plan and it may take twice as long. Just work on those things about yourself that God has been dealing with you about. Leave the husband work to God! GOD changes people and situations not YOU!
Look to the scriptures for your strength. Don't feel sorry for yourself because you were chosen by God to carry your cross! Thank God for the opportunity to share in His sufferings for such a time as this. Remember when your load gets heavy to put it back on his shoulders and look to Him for a lighter load. You may even want to start painting pictures of just such a God. Ones with Jesus lifting your burden and carrying it for you. This is a known form of healing of the soul.
Women be encouraged today if this is you. I would love to hear from you and know how this post has been a blessing to your life. Please email me or write me in the comments. My email is in the tabs above the post.